Introduction to Chapter 28: Covering Faults of the Muslims

You should conceal the affairs of the Muslims. You should keep it secret unless it’s something that will cause fitnah amongst the community and lives will be lost. In that case, you should remind those who are concerned. Ultimately, you must deal each situation accordingly.

اِنَّ الَّذِيۡنَ يُحِبُّوۡنَ اَنۡ تَشِيۡعَ الۡفَاحِشَةُ فِى الَّذِيۡنَ اٰمَنُوۡا لَهُمۡ عَذَابٌ اَلِيۡمٌۙ فِى الدُّنۡيَا وَالۡاٰخِرَةِ​ؕ وَاللّٰهُ يَعۡلَمُ وَاَنۡـتُمۡ لَا تَعۡلَمُوۡنَ Verily those who love that indecency should spread among the believers deserve a painful chastisement in the world and the Hereafter. Allah knows, but you do not know. (24:19)

This ayah was revealed after the issue of Ifk

When the rumours spread, the Prophet ﷺ kept silent because Allah didn’t say anything. Vast majority of the companions stayed silent. Some companions spoke and that pleased the hypocrites. Some companions spoke and that angered the hypocrites more.

The Prophet ﷺ didn’t know what to do. He knows his wife was decent. There’s no doubt about her but he still asks regarding it. Later, when he (ﷺ) tells Aisha that if she did anything wrong, she should ask Allah to forgive her. However, if she didn’t do anything, Allah will tell the believers that there’s nothing wrong. Aisha then got annoyed at this because she realised he (ﷺ) lost trust in her.

Two parties: Wives of the Prophet ﷺ

When you look at the lives of the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ), they were divided into two parties: the party of Aisha (ra) and the party of Zainab; they would fight.

So in regard to the ifk, the Prophet ﷺ asked Zainab binti Jashsh, the one who used to fight with Aisha.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ لِلَّهِ شُهَدَاءَ بِالْقِسْطِ وَلَا يَجْرِمَنَّكُمْ شَنَآنُ قَوْمٍ عَلَىٰ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا اعْدِلُوا هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَىٰ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ O you who believe! Be steadfast for Allah (as) witnesses in justice, and let not prevent you hatred (of) a people [upon] that not you do justice. Be just it (is) nearer to [the] piety. And consciously revere Allah; indeed, Allah (is) All-Aware of what you do. (5:8)

Zainab said the rumours are nonsense and Aisha is one of the best people she’s seen in her life. Because of this event, Aisha had strong respect for Zainab.

When the revelation came, Abu Bakr and Umm Rumaan told Aisha to thank the Prophet ﷺ and she said she wouldn’t.

As a side note, this shows how the Prophet ﷺ lived as a regular husband with his family. When it came to revelation, that was one case as he was the Prophet of Allah. But with family life, it was another case. Sometimes if he (ﷺ) said something, they would reject.

Narrated Aisha: That Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said to her, “I know when you are pleased with me or angry with me.” I said, “Whence do you know that?” He said, “When you are pleased with me, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Muhammad,’ but when you are angry with me, then you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Abraham.’ ” Thereupon I said, “Yes (you are right), but by Allah, O Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ), I leave nothing but your name.” (Bukhari)

Now about the main verse:

To love fahisha being spread in the Muslim community has two meanings:

One: To like the fahisha being spread in the Muslim community. For example: those who present evil manners through films, magazine, newspapers, etc. Two: You don’t want fahisha to be spread in the whole community but you want to tarnish one person’s image. You take something about him and spread it to others

In the first situation, you’re corrupting the community while in the second one, you do it on an individual level. Both of these are included in the verse.

What to do when somebody talks about you in an ill manner

Ifk is a lie but bigger than a lie (lie against somebody and this lie contains accusations which didn’t happen and will also tarnish the concerned person’s image).

The best thing to do when somebody talks about you in the wrong way is to maintain your silence. Usually when you reply, you increase the fire.

It’s also very important to make your باطن (baatin, hidden) better than your ظاهر (zawhir, manifest). You show Allah good manners and the community should also see these good manners from you.

How to react when you’re praised

If you’re praised, it’s one of two things: Either they’re praising you for something which you know you’re doing is good. Or, They’re praising you for something which you know you don’t do. If they praise you for doing something good, then if you’re not careful, you may start thinking highly of yourself and be deceived by that position. And this will destroy your righteousness.

Wallahi be very careful. Yes, they should say good but YOU have to be very, very careful.

Best thing to do be said when somebody praises you is what Abu Bakr used to say,

اللهمَ لَا تُؤَاخِذْنِى بِمَا يَقُولُون وَاغْفِرْ لِى مَا لَا يَعْلَمُونَ وَ اجْعَلْنِى خَيْرًا مِمَّا يَظُنُّونَ O Allah, do not take me to account for what they say about me and forgive me for what they do not know about me, and make me better than what they think of me.

Some people may praise you, thinking you do certain actions. For eg: they praise you for being a person who prays qiyaamul layl when you don’t, but you become happy. Then you’ll be happy with lying.

Yet, some may incorrectly accuse you of something wrong. Don’t worry as it won’t decrease you. And if they say something wrong of you and you know you actually do that wrongdoing, use the chance to fix your issue.

Class: 24th Sep

Hadith #232: Allah’s Protection through Prayer

Hadith in focus: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “When anyone offers the Fajr (dawn) prayer, in congregation, he is in the Protection of Allah. So let not Allah call him to account, withdrawing, in any respect, His Protection. Because, He will get hold of him and throw him down on his face in the Hell-fire.”

Sahih Muslim

Praying fajr in congregation is a contract between you and Allah to be protected by Him. Evil cannot come to except what Allah decrees for you and if He does decree bad, then that will be good for you. That’s why it’s a great loss for a Muslim to miss the Fajr prayer. We’re surrounded by all types of evil from those that of Satan to the evils of humans, but we’ll be having the protection from Allah if we pray in jama’ah.

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Convey glad tidings to those who walk to the mosque in the darkness. For they will be given full light on the Day of Resurrection.” [At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud] .

We don’t even feel the darkness nowadays because the cities are full of electricity. This is a ni’ma of Allah! During the Prophet’s ﷺ time, when they come for fajr, they don’t recognise who’s who. Only after the prayer, they’re able to say who’s this and that. No electricity at all. If the moon was bright enough, they’d see some sign of some shape or form beside them

Some of the places on the Day of Judgement are completely dark, like crossing the siraat but, Allah will give a complete light on Day of Judgement.

Similarly, if you’re patient, Allah will give you something on the Day of Judgement to contradict the nature of what you went through in this life

Prayers in general will protect you

Praying in general protects you; it saves you in this life and the next. This does not refer to only fajr. Although fajr has special aspects connected to it, all prayers protect us. Just look at the following hadith:

Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said to Abu al-Haytham, “Do you have a servant?” He said no. The Prophet said, “If we receive prisoners of war, come to us.” Then, the Prophet had with him two prisoners. He came and the Prophet said, “Choose between them.” He said, “O Messenger of Allah, choose for me.” The Prophet said, “Verily, one who is consulted is in a position of trust. Take this one as a servant, for I have seen him praying. I enjoin you to treat him well.” His wife said to him, “You will not fulfill what the Prophet said about him unless you free him.” He said, “Then he is emancipated.” (Source: al-Adab al-Mufrad)

This hadith helps us understand how prayer protects us in this life.

The Prophet ﷺ chose a slave, his reasoning being because “I saw him praying” (you may see this as a punishment but the Prophet ﷺ knows what he’s doing). He ﷺ also told the companion to treat the slave kindly. When the companion went back to his wife with the slave and narrated everything, the wife told him that he would not fulfill the Prophet’s ﷺ instruction unless he freed him. So this companion freed the slave, the very slave who was chosen because the Prophet ﷺ had seen him pray.

Umar (radhiyAllahu anh) used to say that whoever preserved the salah, he preserved and protected his religion. And whoever neglected the prayer, you would never find him serious in anything; he’d be negligent in other things.

Understand that Allah is in Control

If you fight somebody who goes to the masjid for fajr and he didn’t do any wrong, then it’s like fighting Allah. You’re breaking the tie between Allah and that person. If you touch the ذِمةِ (protection) of Allah, He’ll look for you and if He looks for you, He’ll definitely find you.

One of the beautiful descriptions of Allah is that He is the ONLY one who, when He looks for something, He gets it. When He looks for something, there’s no chance of it being hidden and at the same time, if Allah protects, nobody can get it. In terms of protection, Allah can literally bring the person in front of you yet you won’t see that person. For example: Musa was taken to Firawn. How many children were killed because of Musa? But what happened was that Allah brought him to Firawn in front of his very eyes. And Musa even grew up in that house and what Firawn was afraid of eventually happened.

This should strengthen our faith and not make us scared. If this is our attitude, we won’t sell our religion. We’re selling our manners, our behaviours. Why? Because of a job, work, this or that. Many people are losing their religion because of what? Dunya.

You have to understand Allah is the One who controls:

  • If Allah said you will get it, nobody can stop you. Believe in this and you will enjoy life.
  • If Allah said you won’t get, nobody can provide for you.

Understand the means to attain the protection of Allah. So if somebody broke the ذِمةِ of Allah and Allah looks for him and finds him, He’ll cast him in hell.

Special respect should be given by the believers to those who pray in the masjid

Scholars say that we should respect those praying fajr because they are least committing sins. This refers to those who pray sincerely with khushoo and not doing it out of ritual and those who don’t do it for riya. These are the ones who commit least of the sins. So if they do something wrong, forgive them and give them a chance. Because when they do something wrong to you, usually they do it out of mistake and you’ll find them apologising.

There are others who are criminals who think they have a right over you – these are the ones the scholars say you should hold them accountable. There are some who overspeed and play with the car in the middle of the street and he is known to be like this. And let’s say, one day, the authority catches him, should we ask him to be pardoned? No, let him be a lesson for others!

But the others who don’t mean it and do it out of accident, forgive them. If you forgive these kind of people, Allah will overlook your weaknesses.

Class: 6th August

Hadith #222, #223 & #224: Solidarity and Mercy between believers

Hadith in focus #222: Go back to the Qur’an and Sunnah to be united

Messenger of Allah ( ﷺ ) said, “The relationship of the believer with another believer is like (the bricks of) a building, each strengthens the other.” He (PBUH) illustrated this by interlacing the fingers of both his hands.

If one side of the building gets destroyed, the other side, even if it’s not destroyed, becomes weak. This is the same with regard to the attitude of a believer. In Islam, you can’t support somebody who’s an enemy to a believer just because you don’t like the believer. Imaan combines us; it brings us together despite the differences in understandings, hatred or dunya-related matters.

Islamic ties are stronger than biological

For instance, when Allah destroyed Nuh (alayhi salaam)’s son, the Qur’an says:

وَنَادَىٰ نُوحٌ رَبَّهُ فَقَالَ رَبِّ إِنَّ ابْنِي مِنْ أَهْلِي وَإِنَّ وَعْدَكَ الْحَقُّ وَأَنْتَ أَحْكَمُ الْحَاكِمِينَ “And Nooh (Noah) called upon his Lord and said, ‘O my Lord! Verily, my son is of my family! And certainly, Your Promise is true, and You are the Most Just of the judges.'” (11:45)

You will have some who say that the wife deceived him and he was actually not the son of Nuh. This is very wrong because scholars have mentioned that, based on the sunnah, Allah never tested a Prophet by giving him a prostitute for a wife. The wife may have deceived him in imaan and all but these kind of illicit vices/issues of this nature…no Prophet was tested with that. Neither Nuh or Luth (alayhimusalaam).

Thus, biological, he is Nuh’s son but they didn’t share the same path of imaan. This shows how a relationship based on imaan is far superior than that of blood.

That’s why in Islam, if somebody dies and his heir is not a Muslim, there is no inheritance between them.

Go back to the Qur’an and Sunnah

We’re living in a time that has a lot of delusions: ties have been cut off, there are disagreements in terms of opinions and sometimes even fiqh matters! If people stay away from one another because of aqeedah matters, you may understand but fiqh matters? Just because he has an understanding different from yours, you both separate? Islam isn’t like that.

The best method is for all of us to come back to two things: Book of Allah and Sunnah of Rasoolullah ﷺ.

Some people have differences because they don’t agree with one another. Sometimes, you have different prayers in the same society (not in the same masjid) because of madhab. This one is Maliki, this one is Hanbali…yet they all share the same faith!S

So, it ultimately come to two things

  1. The Book of Allah: There’s no controversy in the Book of Allah. No person who is a Muslim will disagree with the Quran.
  2. Sunnah: Muslims can’t reject the Sunnah. Look at the Quraanians…they’ve lost the whole plot because they rejected the Sunnah.

What you should do next is show respect. If the brother disagrees with your opinion, your job is to go to give and advise him. Humble him. Do not talk against him in the media. That’s the last, last, last stage. If he comes a deviant in the community, then you have to and remind the community not to listen to him.

Hadith in focus #223: Adab of a Muslim to another Muslim

Abu Musa (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (ﷺ ) said, “Whoever enters our mosque or passes through our market with arrows with him, he should hold them by their heads lest it should injure any of the Muslims”.

Bukhari, Muslim

Attitude and adab: Do not harm anybody

Islam reached the peak of respect in this regard: to not harm anyone.

Sometime we play games, even between close friends. One will take the other’s shoes and hide it. Even about those, Rasoolullah ﷺ said not to do so because that angers the believer and Allah doesn’t want that. You’re joking but Rasoolullah ﷺ said don’t hide the shoes of your Muslim brother. He ﷺ also said don’t play with a knife against your Muslim brother, Sometimes we do that as a joke.

It’s a very simple Manhaj: nobody should take a weapon against a Muslim.

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “Whoever takes up arms against us, is not from us.” (Bukhari)

Even when it comes to somebody who doesn’t share the same religion as you but is living with you in peace, the Prophet ﷺ said:

“Whoever kills a mu‘aahid (a non-Muslim living under Muslim rule) will not smell the fragrance of Paradise, although its fragrance may be detected from a distance of forty years.” (Bukhari)

So what do you think of your own brother or sister?

The examples given are the masjid and marketplace as it is there where you find a lot of people. So whenever you aren’t alone, you should follow the instructions of the Prophet ﷺ , who said to hold the arrow by the head. Scholars said the sharp part should be upwards so you won’t harm any of the believers. That’s how much the shariah cares of the Muslims and community.

But this doesn’t mean you hold it the other way outside the masjid/marketplace. These were just examples because that’s where people usually gather.

Abu Musa Al-Ash’ari (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I asked the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ): “Who is the most excellent among the Muslims?” He said, “One from whose tongue and hands the other Muslims are secure.” (Bukhari)

Hadith in Focus #224: Show solidarity

Nu`man bin Bashir (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: Messenger of Allah (ﷺ ) said, “The believers in their mutual kindness, compassion and sympathy are just like one body. When one of the limbs suffers, the whole body responds to it with wakefulness and fever”.

This tells us of the mercy and love that needs to be shown to each other. When you get injured on your toe or if you get headaches, look at how the rest of the body is reacting. This shows solidarity/sympathy. The Prophet ﷺ said believers should be like this.

Sheikh Ibrahim said that a few years ago there were women and children were being thrown by an enemy in a place. He heard somebody say it’s because of their innovations. How can a Muslim say this?

There are two cases here, it’s one of two things: either you conclude that they are not Muslims or not. If you believe they’re not, then that’s another thing. Because they and the ones fighting them are together. But if you do agree they’re Muslims, then just because of mistakes (and actually it may be mistakes according to your understanding), you don’t see their calamity? That’s not the attitude of a Muslim when their Muslim brother or sister is in trouble.

We do believe that whatever calamity befalls on somebody, it does have connection to the sins of the people including you, the one who is speaking. Yet, when they are in trouble, we have to show support.

What should be the best method? Get him out of it first. Then you can give him da’wah. Compare this with the following method: we blame and jump on him and THEN provide aid. No. At the moment, he needs aid to get out of the situation and after that comes the naseeha if we WANT it to take place.

Class: 23rd July 2019

Chapter 27: Reverence Towards the Sanctity of the Muslims (Introduction)

This is the introduction to the 27th Riyadhus-Saliheen chapter which talks about respecting fellow Muslims. It’ll also talk about the right of a believer upon another believer and why we must show mercy to the believers.

Dealing with fellow believers:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ ) said: “The rights of one Muslim over another are five: returning the greeting of salaam, visiting the sick, attending funerals, accepting invitations, and saying yarhamuk Allah (may Allah have mercy on you) to one who sneezes.” (Bukhari, Muslim)

Moreover, you aren’t to stay away from a believer more than three days:

The Prophet ﷺ said: “It is not permissible for a man to forsake his Muslim brother for more than three days, each of them turning away from the other when they meet. The better of them is the one who gives the greeting of salaam first.” (Bukhari, Muslim)

If a believer has done evil to you, you have three days. But just because you have this right, doesn’t mean you should observe it. It’s only if you feel like you can’t forgive him/her. Anyway, after the three days, you have to convey the salaam to each other. If the other doesn’t respond, then it doesn’t matter as your side is cleared with Allah.

Can you go beyond three days? No. Unless, let’s say, you believe that if you go away from a disobedient believer who isn’t listening to your reminders, he may reflect and may come back to righteousness – then you have to leave.

Also, as we’ve studied before, it’s dangerous if you keep reminding and the friend doesn’t listen yet you both are still the closest of friends. This is dangerous because the Jews and Christians were cursed through their own Prophets. They were cursed because the duat, the good ones, the preachers among them – when they’d remind the evil ones who in turn would not stop the evil they were doing, those good ones would still sit with them, eat with them, laugh with them. The Prophet ( ﷺ ) said Allah cursed them because of this.

[The following is an extract from a class conducted on 4th Sep ’18 to give context to the above paragraph]:

What kind of friends should one surround themselves with?

When you command one to do good and forbid evil and if when they don’t listen, you don’t have a tight relationship with them. Have a temporary one with them, one which will allow you to go back to them to give naseeha but it’s not islamic for you to keep a permanent relationship with them.

Bani Israel deserved the curse because those who were better believers (so to say) still ate with the wrongdoers, laughed with them, etc. So those kind of people are included in the curse.

1) Logically when you get close to a wrongdoer, you are going to follow in their path. 2) Everybody is gonna be resurrected in the attitude of their friend. 3) There is no point being a friend with a wrongdoer.

Sheikh Ibrahim recommends choosing a friend who is better than you. Do not choose a friend who is lower than you. In uni or school, if your friend is a loser, you’ll be too. The minimum you should go for is befriending somebody who is of your capacity. No lower than that. But that doesn’t mean you become arrogant. Be humble like the Prophet (ﷺ) but you choose friends based on whom will benefit you.

So we need to draw a line: we don’t cut off our brothers and sisters because there needs to be somebody who will approach them but there are limitations: when you know staying away from them will benefit, then it becomes waajib upon you to stay away. If it doesn’t benefit, then you have to keep some room (you can call it a temporary relationship) that will allow you to sit with him, advise him. Don’t cut him off completely because he may never get somebody to advise him.

Because imagine if all of us were to cut the evildoers off, then who’ll give them da’wah? So that’s why the only person you can stay away from is one whom you believe if you do stay away from, he’ll come back to the truth.

And don’t say anything of the sort like ‘we have to create our own environment’ etc, this is all wrong. You have to stay with the people, tolerate them and give them the da’wah. That’s what Islam is about.

When you give da’wah, somebody may tell you that you are you wasting time. Firstly, you say, while it’s difficult, you want to have an excuse with Allah so that if you meet Allah tomorrow, He will not ask why you did not give him da’wah. Secondly, even if they don’t accept today, they may accept tomorrow.

Give every single person the respect he is due:

Give every single person the respect he is due. For example, with scholars, you have ways to address them; with leaders and authorities, you have ways to address them, etc.

Yet at the same time let’s say you’re in the masjid and you’re in the first line. Somebody else comes; should you give him the place (out of mercy, courtesy, etc)? It’s up to you but the scholars say that there’s no preference here i.e. favouring somebody else over yourself when it comes to righteous deeds. This is because it’s like the following analogy: let’s say there’s only one seat in Jannah. You say go but he says, “No you go first.” Or, let’s say only one seat for hajj and they’ve reserved it for you. But you say it should be given to another person while you’ve never been on hajj before!

Now, on the other hand, let’s say the leaders come to the masjid. It may be his first time visiting your masjid, so yes, you should show a lot of respect!

 وَاخْفِضْ جَنَاحَكَ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ… (…And lower your wing for the believers.) [Full verse 15:88)

It means lower yourself or be humble/merciful/soft/gentle with the believers. Sometimes, you see the opposite nowadays. On social media, you see Muslims bashing other Muslims; “Muslims this and Muslims that”. What do you benefit from that? You cannot say “we have to be honest” etc, it doesn’t work like that. Every person has an internal issue, and you should help rectify it instead of publicizing it.

At the end of the day, Islam doesn’t accept disrespect regardless of whether you agree to their opinions or not.

Hadith #221: Accountability on our Wealth

Khaulah bint `Thamir (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: Messenger of Allah (ﷺ ) said, “Many people misappropriate (acquire wrongfully) Allah’s Property (meaning Muslims’ property). These people will be cast in Hell on to the Day of Resurrection”.

Sahih Bukhari

This is general i.e. we’re not talking about ONE person who is in-charge of taking care of the wealth of the ummah. The Prophet ﷺ is not talking about leaders alone, he’s talking about anybody who has to take care of wealth but didn’t put it in the proper place.

Wealth in general belongs to Allah. So, if the money is in your pocket, it means you’re a caretaker or somebody who’s monitoring it and meant to put it in the right place.

If you have money, you have to realise there’s two questions related to it:
1. How did you get it?
2. How are you spending it?

For example, a man is getting married and he wants to prove he’s rich. He gets so much food, the remaining of which ends up getting thrown…he’ll be questioned about it. So what do you think of one who’s wasting wealth?

Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years.” (Sunan al-Tirmidhī)

What’s this half a day? 500 years! Why are the rich ones left behind? It doesn’t mean the rich ones will go to hell. Wealth can take you to a position higher than the fuqara if you utilise it properly. On the Day of Judgement, Allah will ask you about every single ringgit; how did you get and how did you spend it.

Hadith #190: Rights of the Road

During Sheikh Ibrahim’s Riyadhus Saliheen class (26/10/18) he mentions how the below hadith in particular demonstrates the comprehensiveness of Islam. There are a lot of different lessons that can be learnt from it:

𝐇𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Beware! Avoid sitting on the roads (ways).” The people said, “There is no way out of it as these are our sitting places where we have talks.” The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “If you must sit there, then observe the rights of the way.” They asked, “What are the rights of the way?” He said, “They are the lowering of your gazes (on seeing what is illegal to look at), refraining from harming people, returning greetings, advocating good and forbidding evil.”

Hadith 190, Chapter 23, Riyadhus Saliheen

He (ﷺ) warns us from sitting on the side of the road but if you insist on disagreeing with him, then give the right of the road, i.e. give precedence to the rights to people passing you.

𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐚𝐝 #𝟏: 𝐋𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐆𝐚𝐳𝐞
Anybody who passes of the opposite gender, lower your gaze. (This command applies to both men and women.)

Allah says (24:30)
قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ
Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.’ (24:30)

Allah said “some part of it” because there are some cases when looking at the opposite gender is halal. One exemption is when somebody intends to marry. This has to be a REAL intention. Not whenever you look, you intend to marry / Not after satisfying yourself, you make your intention: it doesn’t go like that.

Scholars added a condition: You must be sure people like you will be accepted or at least you must have a high expectation that the people will agree with you. For eg, you’re one of the lower people in the community and you want to marry the daughter’s king. It’s not impossible but usually because of the culture, daughter of the kings go to the prince.

Mughirah bin Shubah wanted to marry a woman. The Prophet (ﷺ) said to him: “Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.” So he did that, and married her, and mentioned how well he got along with her. [Ibn Majah]

It is important to note that looking is permissible for both suitors when you are looking for information, not to enjoy. But the scholars say if your intention is good and you look but you’re overtaken by what you see and enjoyment comes, you will not be blamed. This is contrary to the one who initially intended that.

Why is the shari’ah so strict? If the companions didn’t understand, we do understand in the contemporary era where promiscuity is rampant. Most of these evils come from looking.

𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐚𝐝 #𝟐: 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬
Are there not times when you don’t even feel secure passing some people because they may comment or laugh about you? That’s why we should sit somewhere else. If there is a deficiency in somebody passing you, try to fix it but don’t say anything. This is backbiting and it’ll be paid on the Day of Judgement. Control your tongue!

a. 𝑊ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑠𝑢𝑓𝑓𝑖𝑐𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢, 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒𝑙𝑦 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑒𝑛𝑔𝑎𝑔𝑒 𝑖𝑛 𝑎𝑛𝑦 𝑒𝑣𝑖𝑙 𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑡𝑢𝑑𝑒:
Yes, sometimes you have evil in the house. But when you come out, you are more likely to be involved in such an attitude as compared to when you’re in your house. Whenever you don’t need to come out, be at home. Especially for families, the best attitude is after you finish work, be at home. Make your family laugh, discuss issues with them and settle your affairs at home. When you finish being productive helping the ummah, come back home. Staying outside unnecessary can help you go against the laws of Allah or the laws of the leaders. If you don’t have a family, make one i.e. get married. If you don’t intend on making one, go inside and stay in your room. It’ll preserve your honour, awrah, sins of others, innovation, etc.

b. 𝐷𝑜𝑛’𝑡 𝑏𝑎𝑐𝑘𝑏𝑖𝑡𝑒
The moment you start picking on the sins of others and forgetting yours, you’re gone. The best way of life is when you see somebody commit a sin, remember that he’s your brother. Go sit with him and advise him, instead of going around and talking about him. When you talk to him, it may be the case that he’s actually doing something correct (and you’re the one in wrong) or he is indeed doing something wrong. If latter, explain why it’s wrong. This is REAL brotherhood

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: The believer is the believer’s mirror, and the believer is the believer’s brother who guards him against loss and protects him when he is absent. (Abu Dawud)

Don’t look out for deficiencies. This is a useless and dangerous life. This isn’t the life the Prophet (ﷺ) would want us to be upon. Imagine if this is how reality is: we fix others. Life would be better on earth. Just read the life of the companions.

This is an extract from a lengthy hadith in Bukhari and Muslim, 
“…Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) made no mention of me until he reached Tabuk. While he was sitting with the people in Tabuk, he said, ‘What happened to Ka’b bin Malik?’ A person from Banu Salimah said: “O Messenger of Allah, the (beauty) of his cloak and an appreciation of his finery have detained him.’ Upon this Mu’adh bin Jabal (MatAllah be pleased with him) admonished him and said to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ): “By Allah, we know nothing about him but good.’…”

Ka’b wasn’t there yet look at how the companion defended his honour. This is how brothers should be.

c. 𝑆𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑔𝑜𝑜𝑑 𝑜𝑟 𝑟𝑒𝑚𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑠𝑖𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑡 
If you want to maintain the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ), pay attention to this hadith, “He who believes in Allah and the Last Day must either speak good or remain silent.” [Muslim]

Mind your business but of course there are some who exceed even this. If you see something wrong with a brother or sister, remind them.

Imam Shaf’i says: “Don’t you see that the lion is silent and yet feared, while the dog barks constantly and is despised?”
Isn’t everybody scared of lions? How much do lions talk? Mostly they don’t talk unless they’re hungry. It’s mostly actions. They act more than they talk. But how about the other one? The dog. How much does it talk? A lot.Tell me, where is the dog respected? Imam Shafi’i says look at the difference. The one who talks so much won’t be shown respect in the way respect is shown to the one who is silent in most instances

𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐚𝐝 #𝟑: 𝐑𝐞𝐩𝐥𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐥𝐚𝐚𝐦
This is also the missing ingredient in our community. Even nowadays when they know each other, what is the salaam? Hi / give fist pumps. As-Salaam is one of the names of Allah. There is a remembrance of Allah and you are making Allah happy and you are rewarded for that

If Allah accepts that dua, you will succeed! Moreover, when you meet a brother, shake his hands because your sins will be forgiven. So why do you want to replace the handshake with fist pumps? And when you give the salaam to a brother, he should reply with what is better than that. What is that? “AssalaamuAlaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh”.

𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐚𝐝 #𝟒: 𝐓𝐨 𝐄𝐧𝐣𝐨𝐢𝐧 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐅𝐨𝐫𝐛𝐢𝐝 𝐄𝐯𝐢𝐥
If you see something wrong in somebody who passes, you advise them with wisdom and gently say what is the sunnah etc. Maybe Allah will guide him through your hand and your sitting will be a success for you

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “He who calls others to follow the Right Guidance will have a reward equal to the reward of those who follow him, without their reward being diminished in any respect on that account.” [Muslim]

Ultimately, the first advice to not sit is for your best because you may not be able to fulfill these rights. But if you think you have the power and strength to do so, Islam has guided you to a method which if you do, your sitting on the side of the road will be a success: lower your gaze, stay away from harming others, reply to the salaam and enjoy good and forbid evil.