You should conceal the affairs of the Muslims. You should keep it secret unless it’s something that will cause fitnah amongst the community and lives will be lost. In that case, you should remind those who are concerned. Ultimately, you must deal each situation accordingly.
اِنَّ الَّذِيۡنَ يُحِبُّوۡنَ اَنۡ تَشِيۡعَ الۡفَاحِشَةُ فِى الَّذِيۡنَ اٰمَنُوۡا لَهُمۡ عَذَابٌ اَلِيۡمٌۙ فِى الدُّنۡيَا وَالۡاٰخِرَةِؕ وَاللّٰهُ يَعۡلَمُ وَاَنۡـتُمۡ لَا تَعۡلَمُوۡنَ Verily those who love that indecency should spread among the believers deserve a painful chastisement in the world and the Hereafter. Allah knows, but you do not know. (24:19)
This ayah was revealed after the issue of Ifk
When the rumours spread, the Prophet ﷺ kept silent because Allah didn’t say anything. Vast majority of the companions stayed silent. Some companions spoke and that pleased the hypocrites. Some companions spoke and that angered the hypocrites more.
The Prophet ﷺ didn’t know what to do. He knows his wife was decent. There’s no doubt about her but he still asks regarding it. Later, when he (ﷺ) tells Aisha that if she did anything wrong, she should ask Allah to forgive her. However, if she didn’t do anything, Allah will tell the believers that there’s nothing wrong. Aisha then got annoyed at this because she realised he (ﷺ) lost trust in her.
Two parties: Wives of the Prophet ﷺ
When you look at the lives of the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ), they were divided into two parties: the party of Aisha (ra) and the party of Zainab; they would fight.
So in regard to the ifk, the Prophet ﷺ asked Zainab binti Jashsh, the one who used to fight with Aisha.
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ لِلَّهِ شُهَدَاءَ بِالْقِسْطِ وَلَا يَجْرِمَنَّكُمْ شَنَآنُ قَوْمٍ عَلَىٰ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا اعْدِلُوا هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَىٰ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ O you who believe! Be steadfast for Allah (as) witnesses in justice, and let not prevent you hatred (of) a people [upon] that not you do justice. Be just it (is) nearer to [the] piety. And consciously revere Allah; indeed, Allah (is) All-Aware of what you do. (5:8)
Zainab said the rumours are nonsense and Aisha is one of the best people she’s seen in her life. Because of this event, Aisha had strong respect for Zainab.
When the revelation came, Abu Bakr and Umm Rumaan told Aisha to thank the Prophet ﷺ and she said she wouldn’t.
As a side note, this shows how the Prophet ﷺ lived as a regular husband with his family. When it came to revelation, that was one case as he was the Prophet of Allah. But with family life, it was another case. Sometimes if he (ﷺ) said something, they would reject.
Narrated Aisha: That Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said to her, “I know when you are pleased with me or angry with me.” I said, “Whence do you know that?” He said, “When you are pleased with me, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Muhammad,’ but when you are angry with me, then you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Abraham.’ ” Thereupon I said, “Yes (you are right), but by Allah, O Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ), I leave nothing but your name.” (Bukhari)
Now about the main verse:
To love fahisha being spread in the Muslim community has two meanings:
One: To like the fahisha being spread in the Muslim community. For example: those who present evil manners through films, magazine, newspapers, etc. Two: You don’t want fahisha to be spread in the whole community but you want to tarnish one person’s image. You take something about him and spread it to others
In the first situation, you’re corrupting the community while in the second one, you do it on an individual level. Both of these are included in the verse.
What to do when somebody talks about you in an ill manner
Ifk is a lie but bigger than a lie (lie against somebody and this lie contains accusations which didn’t happen and will also tarnish the concerned person’s image).
The best thing to do when somebody talks about you in the wrong way is to maintain your silence. Usually when you reply, you increase the fire.
It’s also very important to make your باطن (baatin, hidden) better than your ظاهر (zawhir, manifest). You show Allah good manners and the community should also see these good manners from you.
How to react when you’re praised
If you’re praised, it’s one of two things: Either they’re praising you for something which you know you’re doing is good. Or, They’re praising you for something which you know you don’t do. If they praise you for doing something good, then if you’re not careful, you may start thinking highly of yourself and be deceived by that position. And this will destroy your righteousness.
Wallahi be very careful. Yes, they should say good but YOU have to be very, very careful.
Best thing to do be said when somebody praises you is what Abu Bakr used to say,
اللهمَ لَا تُؤَاخِذْنِى بِمَا يَقُولُون وَاغْفِرْ لِى مَا لَا يَعْلَمُونَ وَ اجْعَلْنِى خَيْرًا مِمَّا يَظُنُّونَ O Allah, do not take me to account for what they say about me and forgive me for what they do not know about me, and make me better than what they think of me.
Some people may praise you, thinking you do certain actions. For eg: they praise you for being a person who prays qiyaamul layl when you don’t, but you become happy. Then you’ll be happy with lying.
Yet, some may incorrectly accuse you of something wrong. Don’t worry as it won’t decrease you. And if they say something wrong of you and you know you actually do that wrongdoing, use the chance to fix your issue.
Class: 24th Sep